Change is coming in our household and it seems everyone is having trouble adjusting, including myself! Adjusting to the idea of another baby, adjusting to the idea of sharing mommy, adjusting to the idea of having our first baby boy… yep, you read that right, It’s A Boy! And while the excitement of our little blessing is overwhelming sometimes, dealing with change can be hard.
I’ve been walking around with one kid wrapped around each leg for about two weeks now. They both seem to need me more than ever and mostly only want me. It’s as sweet as it can be, but it’s trying for both me and my husband. As he tries harder and harder, they seem to resist more and more. They know….change is coming.
Both girls want their mommy time. Both parents want their marriage time. And I want some alone time… as we all know…change is coming.
Change can be scary, exciting, unsettling and bring on unwanted stress. As the countdown is on with only 8 weeks to go, my husband and I have been diving into ways to relieve the stress from change for both us and our kids.
Stick to a routine – It’s great for us and the kids. The kids know what to expect for their daily routine during at home and at bedtime. Having the routine in place makes them feel a bit more comfortable. We know that their routine may get a little rocky when the baby comes, but we’re going to try to stick to it as much as possible!
Alternate bedtime routine with your significant other – No this doesn’t conflict with the above. We still have the same bedtime routine every night: brush your teeth, pray, read books and then off with the light…but my husband and I alternate with each kid. I mentioned above that both girls are needing extra mommy time, by alternating each night, they know what to expect and it’s cut down on the tears.
Have ME time – This goes for everybody in the house! It does my kids good for them to have alone time too. Especially my four year old. But it’s vital for my husband and I right now. As the countdown is on for me, I’m craving my alone time more and more and my husband is doing more and more. With both of us going through so much change and on-going responsibilities, it’s great to know we each get some time to ourselves to recharge and reflect.
Plan dedicated one on one time with each child – We started doing daddy daughter dates last month and now have even incorporated mommy daughter dates. The kids both love getting the one on one attention and it’s also been a great goal for them to reach by having good behavior.
Do at least one date night a month – At least ONE! It just does my soul good to have alone time with my husband. We can connect, talk, laugh and even eat without tiny hands pulling on us and mouths to feed. Even if we can’t get away for the evening alone, it’s great to make plans to eat our own special dinner after the kids are asleep or watch a movie together. Just planning ahead and having this time to look forward to seems to relieve some of the stress of the daily to-do.
As we learn in Ecclesiates, there is a time for everything. A season for every activity under the heavens. I know that this is my season of busyness, of nurturing, of little me-time and 24/7 mommy-time. I also know that this season of change, stress and tons of love will be short lived. God gives me such endurance each day just knowing what blessings I have before me to hug, love, cuddle and direct each day. Change is coming and it always will be. I encourage you to embrace the season you’re in and know that God put you right where you need to be!