I’m in the trenches this week with my little ones. One is fighting sleep, waking every hour, feeling separation anxiety and crying… a lot! The other is slightly regressing, wanting to be the baby, whining versus using her words and wanting me… a lot! Both kids are acting jealous of one another and at the end of the day, it seems there is just not enough of mom to go around.
I’ve been needing more patience… a lot! So, I’ve been praying for it… a lot!
After another sleepless night, and a huge cup of coffee the next morning, I had a revelation. My husband and I were discussing the events that took place during the night, our toddler waking every hour, our three-year old having to potty multiple times during the night and sneaking into our bed. We discussed the day before, the potty accidents, the tantrums, the jealousy, the needs… and then it hit me…
God is giving me ample opportunities to show more patience.
The definition of patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
Patience doesn’t always come natural. It’s a choice. We can choose to react slowly to something that might frustrate us versus being quick to anger. We can choose to give grace versus scolding. We can choose to be calm versus sudden outbursts. God is giving me what I have asked for. I have a choice to be more patient.
And knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness – 2 Peter 1:6
If everything in my life were running smoothly all the time, how would I show patience? These days where I feel like I’m going to pull my hair out matter. These days are making a difference in my children’s lives. This season will pass, and my actions today are setting the stage for mine and their future.
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. – Galatians 6:9
If I choose patience, I also choose joy and love. Even though my kids are crying, needing me more than usual or just plain having a hard day, there are joyful things happening all day long to give praise about. When I choose to be patient, I choose to see these things and the blessings that are surrounding me.
May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy – Colossians 1:11
Patience is a state of endurance under difficult circumstances. The days are challenging and God is blessing us with opportunities to follow His word, show endurance, patience, kindness and love. These difficult days the perfect opportunity to fulfill what God wants me to be and to show my children the correct way to respond.
When Paul explained love, he led with “Love is patient” 1 Corinthians 13:4
I want to show my children love in every way possible. Choosing patience is choosing love.