“In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.” James 3:5
To me, the tongue is the most powerful muscle in our body. With its movement we can leave greatness or destruction. When I read this verse this week, the first thing that came to mind was my children. I think this verse can be applied in all facets of life, from conversations with family or friends to work-life, but for me, I reflected on my most important job, being a mother. Just as James sees our tongue as a tiny spark that can set a forest on fire, I see our children in the same way. I also see how my words and tone can either lift my children up showing them love, patience and kindness or tear them down with my lack of understanding
Motherhood comes with all types of precious moments, but frustrations also accompany it and the strong need for patience. This verse made me reflect on not only the words I choose with my children, but also the tone of voice I use.
After a long day, it’s so easy to be short and have a little less grace and understanding in response to disobedience, tantrums or frequent accidents of a toddler. As hard as it is, it is even more important to have this patience as these are the times that our shaping, molding and impacting our children the most. Our responses not only shape our children’s emotions, but they are also molding how they respond to others as well. Choosing to always
respond with love, kindness and patience in all life’s situations is one of the greatest things we can teach our children and what better way to teach them this life lesson than by example.
The next time your child breaks a dish, displays uncontrollable bursts of emotions, has ill words or just pushes your buttons, as children often do, think of James 3:5 and calmly respond to the situation with patience and love. Remember to your child, you are their world and with your choice of words you strongly impact theirs.